Self-esteem can be thought of as our opinion of our-self.
Building self-esteem in the long-term involves shifting our bias away from the negative and towards the truth and positive that is actually helpful to us.
We all look at world through our own unique lens and a way of thinking about this is to imagine you have a filter or type of mesh grid around you. With low self-esteem the grid tends to be made up of only one shape hole and any information coming through, including comments from others, comes in but is changed to fit through this grid - it's made negative.
So you're told "well done on starting your own business!" and you hear "you should have started your own business sooner" which makes you feel that you aren't good enough as you are.
Changing this filter to actually let what is heard and seen through without a distortion takes some self-effort but it is very do-able!
One really easy thing to do to start to allow the filter as it is to be questioned is to keep a log every day of every positive thing, compliment or praise that is said about you or about something that you have done. If you receive the same comment multiple times, keep a tally next to it but keep this log going every day.
At the end of each week, review the log and ask yourself these questions: what are my initial feelings when I read through this log? On a scale of 0-10 (0 being none and 10 being a huge amount) how much do I believe that all of these positive things are true of me? Which ones do I believe are true? Which ones do I believe there is a possibility of them being true? & which ones do I not believe to be true?
In time and in conjunction with doing other things to boost self-esteem and cultivate mental wellness, your ability to accept these things as genuine complimentary observations and praise from others should increase, thus evidencing your raising self-esteem.
Be your true magickal self
Sophie xo